It is all relative, we are what we make ourselves. I am heavier now than I was a US Marine but that was twenty years ago. I can say hey you are a fat slob now but to me I am healthy and enjoying my ability to eat as I please.

I want to stay healthy and I realize that there needs to be some control. I started my own version of weight watchers which is for portion control and I have lost 4 pounds in a week.

Anyway, Sonia you picture is awesome and I love you!!.

BTW, I know her very well and she is beautiful, I not just a fan of hers but I am her husband.

The problem is that we perceive ourselves as others perceive us. I feel like when people talk to me, they are looking at my appearance and they really don't take me seriously. I really don't feel too fat, but I think others perceive me that way. I have gotten to the point where I really don't care, I will lose weight for me and my health, and not to make others happy. I also like to use the weight issue to my advantage. When people have a comment about weight, I throw the discrimination card at them. That'll shut them up!

BTW, you aren't fat! :-)

Yeah,

It seems now-a-days everybody thinks they are fat. I know at times I do! But i suppose you're right. It is how you see yourself, not how others see you. And it seems that it's all about looks now. 'If you're not pretty or handsome, you'll never be happy.' Which could be true. But it can also be the exact opposite.

You made some very good points that EVERYBODY could relate to. Some can even relate to more than one. *cough cough* I haven't started weight watchers nor have i portioned my food.... Now that I think about it...I'm getting kinda fat. Haha.

But like you said,... You are what YOU percieve yourself. Always.

BTW, Instead of two cents, next time can i get like a dime or something? J/W

And 'mutiman', where did you learn to type? lol

Your right freakinrican 16 now it is all about appearance. It is weird the way people see themselves. That is how people become anorexic. No matter how skinny they are they still see themselves as fat.
I myself think I am not fat. I am healthy but I am dense. So I always look better than it says on the scale. I feel sucure about my health.

BTW, instead of given freakinrican 16 a dime can I have 2 quarters!

There was a time when I knew I was overweight, but I did not feel fat. I was actually 60 lbs over my ideal weight. I did not bulge at the seams, I did not have a belly that giggled when I walked, I was just big yet still curvy.

Over the last 2 years, I have lost about 70 lbs and now I see pictures of myself from then and say WOW I was fat. In reality, I was not fat, just over weight. Now when I gain a pound I freak out. I have never been this size before and I never want to be overweight FAT again.

So I guess what I am trying to say is, its not really so much about the real weight but how you feel about yourself. When I was overweight, I never saw myself as fat because I was so happy with myself. Now that I am thin, I sometimes stress over a pound or so because I am stressed all of the time from work.

Its all relative to circumstance.